Welcome to my website. I am a UKCP registered psychotherapist and have written these pages as a brief introduction to help you in your search for a psychotherapist.
As you begin looking for a psychotherapist, one of your most important guides is simply “how comfortable do I feel talking to this person?” You can come to meet me for half an hour, at no cost, to help you judge this. At this meeting you can tell me what you are looking for from psychotherapy, and I can assess whether I have the right experience to be your therapist.
After this, if we agree to work together, we would usually meet once-weekly for 50 minute appointments. Therapy should go at your pace and last for as long as you need it to; which may be weeks, months or years.
Thank you for visiting my website. I hope you find the information you need here. If you would like to know more, or have any questions before deciding whether to book an initial appointment, do give me a call on 0758 129 0935, or email at firstname.lastname@example.org.
How I work
What happens in a session?
To a large part, the content of each session is guided by you and what you need to bring. Broadly speaking, I think of psychotherapy as a time to explore the present, consider the influence of the past and find hope for the future.
Exploring the present
A therapy session can be a time to experience yourself in a new way. The experience of psychotherapy should allow you to be open to yourself in the presence of someone who can guide you, but not be overly directive or intrusive. The potential for change is already present in you; my job is to help you to find it. I will try to notice what is going on in our therapeutic relationship and will encourage you to be as open as you can be about how you are experiencing therapy. Being able to express difficult or negative feelings, and receive an open and interested response is important, and I will try to facilitate this.
Considering the influence of the past
Like many psychotherapists, I am interested in the past. I believe that the problems we might be experiencing today often arise from adaptations to situations we first experienced in our families. Back then, they were probably necessary to help us. But as our circumstances change, some of these adaptations have become patterns of thinking, feeling or behaving which are no longer so helpful. It can be liberating to realise that we have more choice about how to respond to situations than we thought. At the same time, I also have respect for the tools you have used to build your resilience until now, and might ask you about your strengths, the people who have been important to you and what you currently find helpful when life is difficult.
Hope for the future
As you start psychotherapy, you may know what it is that you hope for. Or perhaps hope seems elusive and the way ahead unclear. As you gain more understanding of yourself, in a supportive therapeutic relationship, you are likely to gain a greater sense of autonomy and possibility. Realising that although your external world might be resistant to change, your response to it can be different, will itself foster hope.